I'm sorry your alone and hurt like this, I really do wish I could be there to help you. And I mean it. I'm proud of you for not doing it, that would probably drive me to the edge too. I know this might be the same as any other person would say, but to tell police. If a parent drives their child to almost doing suicide because of abuse, they can be arrested for it. I don't know what made your "dad" think he should brutally hurt you just cause an argument, but either way it isn't right. No one ever has that right to do that to a young person. You need to get help. If you don't know who, FIND someone. If your mother doesn't listen, find someone who will, anyone. If you can't, I'll be praying that you will because that is downright wrong. It matters that you're safe. This issue IS a major problem. No parent should act like that. Sorry, I'm done ranting. Just please try to be safe Muke. We're always with you even if we aren't.
Thanks, Howler. It... is an on-going argument. Everytime I'd talk about it, he'd go aggressive.
I don't know about telling the police...
I'm sorry for not being around when you needed someone to talk to. There's nothing else i can try to say that i haven't said before or that you'll even listen to me. I'd say it'll be okay but i'd be lying to you, i'd tell you to be stronger than the situation but i guess you've been pushed too far.
All i can say is that people here will miss you.
I appreciate that you read through it. Thanks.
I want to know why you haven't reported your father. Is it because you fear the consequences of doing such a thing?
This is what I think of when I feel suicidal: Pain is momentary. Death is forever.
Wouldn't you rather find happiness in life rather than lose everything?
This is a situation that can be fixed. You don't have to live in that house with that man under that kind of abuse.
Thank you, Spockanort.
I just don't know what'll happen if I would go to the police. I just don't know what to say and if they'd believe me.
This pain... it's not really momentary. This has been going on for god knows how long.
I would, but at this point there only are two things that make me happy. This site and Kingdom Hearts. (I know, it sounds cliche as f, but it's the truth.)
Are you in your teens? Of course, it's hard to escape a situation like that even in your 20's with how much things cost, living alone. If you feel in danger for your life, I would definitely report it to someone at school even if you're afraid of what might happen. You don't have a mom or grandparents you might be able to talk to without this guy knowing? Or an aunt/uncle/cousin/family friend you might be able to reach out to? If you're above 18, I'm not really sure what you could do except try to find a job as soon as possible, get out of dodge, and never look back.
All I could say is to focus on the things you love when you feel humiliated and powerless, like your pets, people you've met at school or other places, relatives, games/books, etc. Whenever you feel over the edge, put on your favorite movie to try and calm yourself down, a movie that'll remind you how beautiful the world can be and that there are reasons to live, things left to see and hear. Don't let your father or whoever this is win in the long run. It's hard to endure when you feel alone, but so many things can change in years, even months.
Yes, I am 14.
I did tink about calling my uncle today, but I decided not to because my grandma is in hospital and he already is as sad as he can get. I don't want him to get any more upset. But thanks to an User whom I talked to (If you're reading this, idk if you want the others to know or not?), I have decided that I will call him if anything like this happens again.
That actually does sound like a really nice 'technique'. Thanks, Tartarus!
Call a suicide prevention lifeline:
Austria Suicide Hotlines - Suicide.org! Austria Suicide Hotlines, Austria Suicide Hotlines, Austria Suicide Hotlines, Austria Suicide Hotlines! (this is for Austria- your location)
Locate a crisis center and visit one:
International Association for Suicide Prevention - Resources- Crisis Centres > Europe
Seriously, don't worry about reporting your dad or "getting out" of the house right now. Call a lifeline and visit, explain the situation,
get help for yourself.
Thank you so much, Victor!
Call one of those hotlines and you need to seriously consider reporting your father. This wil not end unless you do something about it but Master Spockanort is right: pain is temporary. Death does not fix the problem, it merely avoids it at the cost of everything else. And that cost can't be worth it.
As I stated above, I am not sure about reporting.
Thanks for reading through everything!
As someone who is part of the social work area I strongly recommend you go to a teacher or counselor as soon as you are able and report him. I do not know how these things work in your country but here we as educators are mandated to do something about it. Hopefully yours has the same, or even better policy to get you out of this horrible abusive environment. I know it is hard because you are underage and might not have anyone in real life to support you, but now is the time to advocate for yourself and speak up. You are deserving of every basic human right as anyone else, and your father has no right to put his hands on you. If you have another family member that you know you can live with please reach out to them and ask for their help.
I know what it is like to live under horrible conditions such as this, it is suffocating and makes you feel weak like there is no way out. But there is, and you will be glad that you take action now and not wait. You will grow up and be stronger for it. Hang in there, I have faith that you will be able to get passed this.
We do, too, have those kinds of policys. But I rather not tell a teacher or someone from school. I don't really trust the teachers. :/
Thank you so much, Nelli!
I'm very sorry, Muke. If you're feeling down then I definitely recommend what Tartarus said. Find a nice movie, or music, or a good game to play. Your issue is very major, so I recommend reporting a certain adult. If your father's reasons for doing these things are unknown, attempt to talk to him (easier said then done, I know). Or if he continues doing this with no remorse, report him.
I know why he is doing it, and I already 'confronted' him about it.
Thanks, Buffer!