Funny problem I have that may or may not affect my interactions with others. It probably makes things awkward without me noticing or I feel extremely awkward even though the others may feel fine, though hindering the interaction. All in all I probably lose my concentration, and as a result, have difficulty continuing the talk or whatever.
But what is the problem? Things are going fine, but when I realize it, weird thoughts come across. Example?
Talking to a random girl. Don't have feelings for her, but just a nice convo is going on. But then I realize it. "Okay, you're now aware things are going pretty steady. Don't screw this up." 5 seconds later. "RELATIONSHIP. SEX. HER FIRST NAME PLUS YOUR LAST NAME. RULES. DON'T FACE HER TOO MUCH. YOU HAVE JUST BECOME NERVOUS. YOU'RE SWEATING. YOU FORGOT TO PUT PANTS ON TODAY. YOU HAVE AN ERECTION. MADE YOU LOOK. DON'T TURN YOUR FACE RED. YOUR FACE IS NOW RED. SHE IS A GIRL. YOU ARE A BOY. MATING RITUALS. YOU CAN'T ESCAPE ME. <maniacal laughter>"
Et cetera. Exaggerated of course. I think. Not that I necessarily want any of the above, but sometimes I can't help but just have awkward thoughts flash in my mind. Again, not that I desire anything further with the person, but when my mind says not to do something, it ends up doing it.
It's not just for females either. Similar things can happen with males (although I suppose at a significantly lesser rate). The thoughts that drift through my head can be very situational, but either way makes me feel uncomfortable and can make the person feel uncomfortable. I don't really think about the thoughts in details, such as if the word "relationship or sex" pop through my head, I don't think about it, I just try not thinking about it while thinking about it. If that makes sense. If it doesn't make sense, then simply I don't think about it, I'm trying to keep my composure.
Lastly, this usually only happens with people I'm not used to talking to. Any friends or people that I have regular contact with are rarely effected with this problem.
Basically, what do you in these situations, or perhaps, what can you suggest for a person to keep their composure in such situations?
Lastly lastly, it's 3am. So apologies in advance for what a mess this topic or post might be.
But what is the problem? Things are going fine, but when I realize it, weird thoughts come across. Example?
Talking to a random girl. Don't have feelings for her, but just a nice convo is going on. But then I realize it. "Okay, you're now aware things are going pretty steady. Don't screw this up." 5 seconds later. "RELATIONSHIP. SEX. HER FIRST NAME PLUS YOUR LAST NAME. RULES. DON'T FACE HER TOO MUCH. YOU HAVE JUST BECOME NERVOUS. YOU'RE SWEATING. YOU FORGOT TO PUT PANTS ON TODAY. YOU HAVE AN ERECTION. MADE YOU LOOK. DON'T TURN YOUR FACE RED. YOUR FACE IS NOW RED. SHE IS A GIRL. YOU ARE A BOY. MATING RITUALS. YOU CAN'T ESCAPE ME. <maniacal laughter>"
Et cetera. Exaggerated of course. I think. Not that I necessarily want any of the above, but sometimes I can't help but just have awkward thoughts flash in my mind. Again, not that I desire anything further with the person, but when my mind says not to do something, it ends up doing it.
It's not just for females either. Similar things can happen with males (although I suppose at a significantly lesser rate). The thoughts that drift through my head can be very situational, but either way makes me feel uncomfortable and can make the person feel uncomfortable. I don't really think about the thoughts in details, such as if the word "relationship or sex" pop through my head, I don't think about it, I just try not thinking about it while thinking about it. If that makes sense. If it doesn't make sense, then simply I don't think about it, I'm trying to keep my composure.
Lastly, this usually only happens with people I'm not used to talking to. Any friends or people that I have regular contact with are rarely effected with this problem.
Basically, what do you in these situations, or perhaps, what can you suggest for a person to keep their composure in such situations?
Lastly lastly, it's 3am. So apologies in advance for what a mess this topic or post might be.
