Admittedly I skipped past a couple of posts, but the ones that I did read I noticed some generalization. Hence why I said it. Don't take it so personally chump.
yeah, well its tough. I get all sorts of crap thrown at me because "I'm a guy". I hate the mistrust by the parents of my female friends. I'm the last guy on earth who'd do the stupid things they worry about.
still, while it is true that girls have particular tastes on an individual level, There is also no way anyone could prepare someone for an individual encounter, so for the purposes of helping out some other guys out there, you have to give general guidelines, because alot of guys are so totally clueless that its painful to see.
the way you appear to another can be improoved or destroyed by the way you hold yourself. This is why i say that guys should try to hold themselves high, and not do any of the weird/unattractive things I mentioned. While its true that some people might not have a problem with those qualities, the majority of people do not seem to have a desire for people who are to much like that.
admittedly, i read stuff wrong which lead to that paragraph. Still, I think i will still stand behind the idea of what i say. Its never a bad idea to expand, and I'm not one to say, "well, atleast i'm me" I say to myself "how can i do better next time?".
Anyway, how is "ACQUIRING SELF CONFIDENCE" a foolish advice? The basis to doing anything, even for succeeding in life is self satisfaction/love. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves, no? If you feel there's a trait in you which you want to improve, you'd improve it. The last part of your post pretty much added to my statement.
Well, at least Hiro got it. Thanks for clearing it up.
yep, thats about right. I had miss read your stuff. Still, i don't understand how it will help with self confidence. If you being yourself has not gotten you much luck, then why would you stay that way? I've encountered numerous people who try to "be themselves" and as a result, they are miserable, because they think doing things differently might be "living a lie" or "not themselves", and so they go no where. I just don't want to see that trend to continue.
I feel self confidence comes mostly from actually succeeding in your goals. I mean, I'm fairly optomistic in that i know that i'm going to do well when i get there, but thats the thing, I haven't really gotten all that far (mostly for stupid reasons. I don't know if you've read Inner Conflict on this board). I just stumble around half the time, and i have to say, my self image is not exactly the way i want to be. I try to change that, but i just seem to go in circles. Its tough to build self confidence on failure.
EDIT: @CAB's following post: Ah, right I see. I had a small reply to it but I'll do that later; bed tiiiiime.
Yeah, sorry for jumping down your throat to quickly.
Curses.... more *******editing******
i know. i just like her so much. i'm just confused. my love life is a train wreck, and i need help.
There is not alot you can do, other than avoid her friend zone, and just ask her to go do things with you (but don't put any serious labels on it. For example, don't say dates, or relationships). I have a hunch that if you just hang out with her (again, without getting to close) you will probably be able to capture her attention, and you just might be able to get her in the position to want a relationship with you.
her age still bothers me, and i don't know how legitimate it will be, but we'll see. she definitely seems to young in my books for a relationship.
lol, i don't think i'd get that kind of responce.
depending on her maturity level, you might. All i'm saying is be prepared. I don't know her personally, but i don't know many people her age who can handle a relationship like what i think you're looking for.
To bad i suck at my own advice...
it's fine. sometimes i don't use quite the right words.
thats everyone. the right words are always difficult to find.
yeah, i should start charging for this advice.