Well, I just need some advice on relationships specifically with friendships. I had acquaintces and only on friend in my lifetime but other than that the only thing I really know is that there were from high school. Lately, I feel misantropic and I just cannot stand to be around some people but at the same time I am afraid to go outside to go to any job. I just don't know, I do want money but I hate work especially if it is a job I hate and also I don't have anybody (other than my family) outside the forums to talk to. How do I win friends or at least find someone to talk to?
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Yeah, sitting around and moping/worrying about everything isn't going to solve matters.
Go out, get a job, talk to people at said job, make friends.
If you go to college, talk to people there too.
Go out, get a job, talk to people at said job, make friends.
If you go to college, talk to people there too.
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You look like someone in college so if there's people who seem nice, you could approach them and talk. Sitting around being sad won't help at all.
Of course it doesn't. But some people do it don't they? =/
Anyway, try saying "Hi my name is...(your name)." or try to talk to them about current events or ask them how they are doing and how are they liking the job and if you need help, talk to them. Sometimes when you work with others and ask for advice, you might get a conversation going or crack up a joke if your funny, if not, don't. Just try being friendly and being polite. If they accept you for who you are, then good and if not, forget them. Just try not to act desperate or drive them away. =/ I know you can do it! =]
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dude don't be sad man, I had some problems too, but you know what I learned to look on the bright side atleast I have my self. FRIENDS ARE NICE TO HAVE BUT SOMETIMES THEY CAN BETRAY YOU OR MAKE YOU MADE. iT TAKES TIME.
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Do you even proof read before you post?
Now for the subject;
For jobs, you shouldn't be worried about that. Seriously. Is it a job you're going to keep for your lifetime? No. It's just a stepping stone in the right direction. Jobs do suck, but if you make friends there, they become fun. And it's not that hard making friends, especially working at a job. Because like 99% of the time, employees have to talk to each other about something. And if you see some people that are cool, just try to hang out with them. If they don't accept you, big whoop, they weren't meant to be your friends anyways.
Well, you definitely want to to try to improve your social skills, right?
For starters, why don't you try making friends on this forum first. The text-based communication here is much easier than RL friends-making, so you should be able to manage that.
Then just try to figure out things like, what kind of person you are, how people act towards you, what you can improve with yourself, what kind of people you get along with well, etc.
Try to find out such things and how you can improve your own social skills.
As for outside the forums, it always pays to join something like a sports-club or any other weekly activities outside to meet people. Of course, a job would suffice, too. If you meet a few people on a regular basis, then it'll be easier to get to know them better.
Naturally, it probably won't show results right away, but you'll gradually gain experience and get better.
I know you explicitly said that you hate being around a lot of people, but I'm afraid it's your only bet if you want to change your situation. You can't just expect something to happen by itself without any problems, you'll have to fight for it.
You can PM me anytime, if you need some more help or tips. I'd be glad to help.
Find something you have in common with people; I met 35% of my friends through Anime.
Don't be a faggot
hit the gym
then slay some pussy
don't ask for it
TAKE IT
hit the gym
then slay some pussy
don't ask for it
TAKE IT
Move out of your safety bubble once in a while. Go out and try new things and meet new people. You might just find a group of group who you really relate to. And if you find something that really interests you that could very easily turn into a job that you enjoy. Also get over your fears. What do you have to lose. Live each day like it's you last.
yeah, like others said, gym it up, if u change your appearence in some way people will probably notice and since I can see confidence is one of your main problems thats probably a good start.
go outside and get some fresh air
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Love people for who they are, and try to get to know people.
If insecurity/trust is an issue, don't let anyone know about your private stuff, but continue to be friendly and build bonds.
If insecurity/trust is an issue, don't let anyone know about your private stuff, but continue to be friendly and build bonds.
they are all right dude,sitting there wont solve anything,DO something,wether it is trough gym or being the funny guy in the group,having charisma idk man,you have to be good at something right?use that thing you are good at,relate to people who are like you or to people you like,whatever you want,its up to you dude
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misanthropy nailed if you always do what you've always done you'll always get what you've always gotten
Oh boy.
What great advice.
While this is probably a good approach, it always does pay off to first think about the situation and not try it carelessly.
You can probably avoid failures like this more easily.
But in the end, it still comes down to the fact that you need some experience first. Failure is inevitable most of the times.
If someone looks like they need help, help them. That strategy worked for me, or like everyone else said, find people you can relate to/similar intrests.
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