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Lycanthrope

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Well, my brother is 13 years old. He recently has been doing things he shouldn't on the computer. He's not allowed to have a Facebook, yet he has one. My mom forbid Myspace from the house, he one that as well. He had about 8600 e-mails since June, all filled with Facebook, Myspaace, porn, talent agencies he filled out applications for (sent pictures of himself to one, that dumb shit), and so much other shit. my mother asked me to check out EVERY SINGLE e-mail last night. I was up really late, and didn't get a chance to crack down on an anatomy test today, which I likely bombed the shit out of.

Generally, I would have no problem with him having a Facebook or Myspace, but he had friends from all over the fucking world. Like, I counted 14 friends from other countries on Facebook, and he had requested all off them (Found out by checking his e-mails) and I don't think he knew over half of his Myspace friends.

My mother has no idea what to do with him. Home schooling is not an option, as she MUST work in order to keep a roof over our heads. She would prefer not to resort in sending the dumb shit to military school or boarding school, solely for the expense of it. She lost all trust in him, and he's home alone for a mere 2 hours before my mom gets home from work.

Really, I need help on figuring out how to revert my brother from being a dumb shit. I mean, not having a real father really hasn't affected me, but this prick needs someone to bring down the ground hammer on him, since he just has to cry to get out of trouble with my mom. And I have to act as the man of the house, but he won't listen to me when I tell him that he needs to shape up. I warned him my mom was considering boarding school, military school, and everything else, but he just says "She's bluffing" every time.

This isn't the first time he's done something like this either, and I'm worried about him. I can't act in place of his father, after all, so I don't know what I can really do other than tell him to heed my mother's warning, which he refuses.
 

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Punch him in the face. And no, I am not kidding.
 

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Facebook is for high school students, so he shouldn't have one.
All the porn and everything needs to stop from him, so tell him. I know it's hard without a father cause I didn't have a father. I would never see him, so what you should do is be the man of the house. Which means. If he doesn't want to learn with words. Then he has to learn with fist.
 

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Although, Myspace is for whiny douchbags.

I agree with Tyler. He needs to set straight, and if you can't reason it, beat it. Just don't go too far. . .

The worst is the porn and talent stuff, the porn is just bad and who knows what some sick fuck could do with those pictures. . .
 

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Take the power cord for the modem to school with you.
 
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if i were you then i would block all those websites with a pasword that only you and your mom know and if he tried to find it you would know before he gets a chance to do anything. dont be to hard on him because i know where he's coming from. im the same age as him and i dont have a dad either. Even though i think im a little mentally unstable( i dont know yet but i know i am) the reason i dont do that stuff anymore is because i get whooped if i did anything bad. i think all your brother needs is a good ol fashion whooping.
 

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Man, that's a prick thing of a brother to do. So he's got friends from other countries. If he's not going to get on a plane and meet them, and they aren't going to spend mad cash on a freaking ticket to come see some little kid, it's no harm. Facebooks actually for all ages now. I had friends from all over the country when I was 8, I loved to read and write and I talked to kids who were much older than me about it. I was watching porn when I was his age. Just make sure that he's not making any plans to meet anyone over the internet. You don't want to be an overprotective bitch to you're little brother and make him resent you.

You're blowing it way out of proportion. Sending him to Military School because of myspace? Am I getting that right? That's dumb shit.
 
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this prick needs someone to bring down the ground hammer on him
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Well that sucks. Try to block emails he gets or something? I have other suggestions but some of that don't really fit in here. How long has this been going on? And have you tried talking to him about it?
 
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Other than disobeying his mother and his overuse of MySpace and Facebook, I fail to see a real problem here.

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Trag said:
You're blowing it way out of proportion. Sending him to Military School because of myspace? Am I getting that right? That's dumb shit.

i'd say you and your mother are screwed in the head, but hey, at least someone in your family is alright.
 

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As long as he's not inviting strangers into the house to eat and rape him, then what he's doing really isn't all that horrible.
 

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Like others have said, I don't really see an issue with what hes doing.
I had to yell at my little sister because I found out she had made a myspace, but my little sister is TEN.
She's too young. I don't see a major issue with a 13 year old having one though.

And looking at porn isn't something hideously wrong.
Its not like most of us haven't looked at it around that age.

Facebook is for teens not for kiddie's.
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He's thirteen.
thirteen
Yeah.


Idk. The talent thing is sketchy.
But I don't see anything that bad with the other shit.
And pulling him out of school or sending him away because of stuff like that?
You should be thankful he's not doing drugs or knocking up 12 year olds.
Theres so much worse he could be doing.
If anything, you should be proud of him staying out of the major shit he could be doing.
 

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Am I getting this right? Your mother is getting mad over this because he has a MySpace and a Facebook?

Come on, he's a teenager, dude. This is what happens in those years.

Threating to send him to military school and boarding school is for doing what normal teens do is kinda dumb.
 

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Tell him if you see him sending pictures of himsefl over to random people (no, facebook and myspace dont' count. I was doing shit like that at 12), then say you're taking the powerchord and monitor chord to his computer. When he doesn't believe you and he does it again, pull the plug, and walk away. Honestly, he'll learn his lesson in that regard.

The facebook, myspace, porn, etc. isn't that big of a deal. And being an older brother, you shoudl realize especially with porn the urges a kid can get. You can't hide him from that, be the older brother and say as long as he tones the shit down, you'll cover for him with your mother. That way, he'll be able to keep doing what he's doing, but you'll have a power over him because he'll actually respect you. And from there, you can shape him into what your mother wants him to be. You have to compromise, especially with teenagers, because they're going through a lot, and they do need their freedom. Let him break the rules a little bit, he'll think he's free as a bird, but at the same time, you'll have the power over him that he doesn't realize.

Do that if you want your mother's rules truly enforced. It won't happen over night, you have to be smart about it.

Unfortunately, I don't agree with not allowing him to do whag he's doing, but hey, it's your mother's house,a nd your mother's rules.
 
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Am I getting this right? Your mother is getting mad over this because he has a MySpace and a Facebook?

Come on, he's a teenager, dude. This is what happens in those years.

Threating to send him to military school and boarding school is for doing what normal teens do is kinda dumb.

Basically, this. If making friends online, looking at porn and occasionally being rebellious are truly such heinous crimes then I find it silly that you're asking for advice on how to prevent this behavior from a group of people who, in the overwhelming majority, exhibit the same behavior.

Young boys have been looking at adult images forever, this is nothing new. Back in the 1960's my dad and his friends would read National Geographic just so that they could catch a glimpse of a breast on a drawing of a Native American woman; when I was only about nine I started using the computer (with a modem that could load maybe one image every ten minutes if I was lucky) to look up progressively more and more raunchy media, and thirty years from now my son will probably be watching a woman getting gangbanged through a holographic display in 3-D.

When your mother was growing up the concept of clicking a button so that a person 2,000 miles away could instantly see an image of your face was probably foreign and a bit scary. You always hear people going on and on about how dangerous giving out private information on the internet is, but the fact of the matter is that the same people Fox News is afraid of children meeting on the internet are the people who cook our meals, wash our cars, fix our appliances, etc. etc. Your children go to school with their children. You're far less likely to be hurt through the internet than you are in real life. Also, I've given my full name to countless people on KHI, my personal phone number to about 10 of them, and at least 3 people here know my home address. It's never presented me with any problems.

What I'm getting at is that it sounds more like your mother is afraid of technology than anything else. Military/Boarding schools are generally reserved for children who have extreme behavioral issues, and your brother is guilty of nothing but being a typical teenager in the year 2008. My advice to you and your mother is to tone this behavioral, "don't know what to do with you" shit and just let the kid be. Teenagers have MySpaces and Facebooks. Teenagers are interested in adult stimuli. Teenagers question nearly everything their authority figures tell them. His behavior is about as expected as could be, and you're talking about sending him off to boarding school like you caught him with a meth addiction and a handful of pregnant girls.

Mom. Calm the fuck down.
 
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