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[mesmerized]

Words are just words. Deep down I'm sure they feel happy. Plus, (little) kids rarely say thank you

When I first posted this I wasn't feeling appreciated in any sense. Thats why I said a simple "Thank you" would suffice. The bad thing about all this is that it wasn't little kids doing this to me. It was a 40-something year old, a 16 year old, a 12 and 10 year old. They're all old enough to know how to use proper manners.

Words are just words. I don't seem to agree with on that. Its not that you're wrong, its just that I have a different opinion on it. Words can build a city and words can tear one down. They are very powerful.

 

[Mordecai]

Words are only as powerful as you make them.


For example, you could call a blind old man a stupid blind man. He will either take it negatively and get angry, or he will shrug it off since he doesn't really care.

 

[mesmerized]

Words are only as powerful as you make them.


For example, you could call a blind old man a stupid blind man. He will either take it negatively and get angry, or he will shrug it off since he doesn't really care.

I understand that in its entirety, however if you keep being told the same thing over and over again it starts getting to you. It even worse when other's join in.

*Current situation*

Can you imagine walking around with your head down all the time because your ashamed of your life and who you've become? Well thats how I am right now. Everyone in my family (yes I said family) are treating me like total crap. My mom says I don't do anything. My sister says that I'm a bad example to my younger sisters.

The thing is.. if they only knew how much I love them and how much they hurt me things would be different. That or completely the same. If my mom needs an extra couple gallons of gas because she doesnt work (or can't work) I'm the one who delivers. My sister's pretty much ignore me after me taking away their 360 that I was paying for... but you know why I did that. (If you even read this thread you'd know)

I'm at my limit right now. I'm sooo stressed out. I'm sick of being the only one who works in this house.. I think it would be different if my mom was back working again... but I'll never know for sure.

In the long run, I'm putting my dreams on hold. I've been saving up for a car since the beginning of Oct.. but every time I turn around I'm dipping into my car funds. What should I do? I tried confronting them but get no results. I'm about to pull a Itachi Uchiha on them all..lol.

 

[Mordecai]

Sounds bad. Have you tried my last piece of advice? The if-all-else-fails one?

Make a scene. Go crazy. Yell. The whole thing. Start off in a small conversation, and make an effort, a REAL EFFORT, to get your point across. Even if they say "Yeah, ok, we appreciate you, whatever" say "No, I don't think you understand. Time after time I've said this exact same thing, that I don't feel appreciated, but guess what? I'm still not thanked." Then raise your voice a little. Take this out on the people that aren't thanking you. Only thing I see that will be getting through to them.

Also, you're 19? Why don't you just move?

 

[Danica Syer]

Well if you want people to thank you and all, be like, "Your welcome." rather loudly and maybe if they hear that and be clueless and whatever, tell them...like it is. One suggestion. Another is to actually just don't expect them and see if they want to do a favor and you don't thank them. See how they react and or whatever and if they want the same, then try and tell them about how you feel and how you want the same and all. Some of my suggestions there but like everybody else, don't think on it. Yeah, you should get respect and I totally know how you feel but I'm sure there are alot more things to worry about.

 

[Mordecai]

When it's upsetting her this much, it is something to worry about. By the way, she's already gone through with your advice, I believe.

I understand that in its entirety, however if you keep being told the same thing over and over again it starts getting to you. It even worse when other's join in.

*Current situation*

Can you imagine walking around with your head down all the time because your ashamed of your life and who you've become? Well thats how I am right now. Everyone in my family (yes I said family) are treating me like total crap. My mom says I don't do anything. My sister says that I'm a bad example to my younger sisters.

The thing is.. if they only knew how much I love them and how much they hurt me things would be different. That or completely the same. If my mom needs an extra couple gallons of gas because she doesnt work (or can't work) I'm the one who delivers. My sister's pretty much ignore me after me taking away their 360 that I was paying for... but you know why I did that. (If you even read this thread you'd know)

I'm at my limit right now. I'm sooo stressed out. I'm sick of being the only one who works in this house.. I think it would be different if my mom was back working again... but I'll never know for sure.

In the long run, I'm putting my dreams on hold. I've been saving up for a car since the beginning of Oct.. but every time I turn around I'm dipping into my car funds. What should I do? I tried confronting them but get no results. I'm about to pull a Itachi Uchiha on them all..lol.

Talking to them just... isn't working. That's why I suggested the "scene." It'll get their attention, it will keep their attention, and it will get through to them.

 

[mesmerized]

Sorry its taken so long to reply. Family issues. I don't move out because my lack of funds, naturally.

Thanks for all the advice and I try that. ^_^

 

[TheMuffinMan]

I'd have to agree with Abba on this, you really need to just have a good bitch at them and let them know how you feel, like really wig the hell out about it. Maybe not in the presence of the really young sisters, but your mom and older sister could probably use an earful

Even if you can't move out, the next step is to just cut them off financially. Don't leave yourself to be used and stop doing them favors, don't be the nice one and when they ask for anything from you just say no, that you don't think they appreciate what you do for them

 

[Dant?s de Divinity]

Ha I know what you mean. I take care of my little brother. I spend most of my money on his favorite food, games for him, and just what he wants or needs but he has not said thank you to me all that much at all but I don't care. You know why I don't care? It’s because I know he loves me more then anything and he doesn't need to say it because he's just a kid and because him being happy is what makes me know that he appreciates me. Don't worry about it your friends and siblings might not say it out loud but they are grateful.