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So this is the deal.

About a year and half ago I met this girl.
We talked for a while and became really good friend.
Then I found out she lived 1 street away from me.

Things got awesome.

Then we grew apart. And my best friend took a fancy towards her.
They went out, on & off for about a year.


They, however had a falling out and now, hate each other.

We've began talking again.
We confessed how we each secretly liked each other way back when we first met.

However, i'm approaching this carefully.
I'm not sure how my best friend would react if anything happened between us.
I'm 90% sure he still has feelings towards her.

Should I just....not persue this?

Should I try and talk to him, see if maybe he's cool about it?

Should I go ahead anyways?


BTW. he's a member here.

If he ever see's this...uh....hi.
 

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awww
the whole bob saget thing in the title excited me
oh well, i will still attempt to help

if you are pretty sure he still has feelings for her, but you still want your girl, you should talk to him. dont use hyopthetical questioning, try to be simple and direct about it. if he has a problem with it, then you would probably need to talk some more, unless you kinda dont care about what he thinks on your relationship with his ex.

i suppose it depends, how long ago was this falling out?
 

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awww
the whole bob saget thing in the title excited me
oh well, i will still attempt to help



i suppose it depends, how long ago was this falling out?

aw sorry bout that.
saget.jpg

there ya go.

i suppose it depends, how long ago was this falling out?

uh....bout 6 days ago.

Which do you value more?

That's the thing!
The dude's been like a brother to me.
And she's a really close friend.
Lately tho him and I have grown more apart and her and I have grown closer.


Talk to your friend about it. And if he doesn't like it, who gives a shit?

I do.
 

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That's the thing!
The dude's been like a brother to me.
And she's a really close friend.
Lately tho him and I have grown more apart and her and I have grown closer.

And where do you and her fall on his scale?

Are they the type to get back together after a week?
 

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Hrm...Well I suppose you should talk to him first and see...

Then talk to her and whatnot if it's cool. :<
If not...well, you have some issues to tweak out, huh?


I dunno. You don't think he'd kick your ass or something, do you?
 

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Has already been said in a way, but I hope this helps.

When I was in high school, this scenario was unavoidable. It happened so often that I decided to instigate a rule within my closer group of friends. If it has been longer than a year since the relationship between your friend and the person you like, then you needn't ask (in short, after a year of their breakup, do what you want). On the other hand, if it has been less than a year since their breakup, it is respectful to ask the person if they have any objections to you making a move on the person you like (in short, before a year has passed, you need to ask).

Approach your friend with respect, he will be happy to know that you're asking him. If he is an aggressive person then he might get a little angry. Honestly, that's better than ruining a friendship.

I wish you luck. Do it right, and hit it tight!
 

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Are they the type to get back together after a week?

I know too many kids like that.

Well, let's see here...

I'm gonna have to agree with everyone else. Talk to your friend about it. If he's alright with it, then forge ahed; you're in the clear. If not, then give it a week and see what happens. If that girl really does like you, she's not gonna go back with him, is she?

If you're too impatient or nervous that the girl will go for someone else or vice versa, then forge ahead. You have every right to satify your hormones. And if your friend complains, then ask him why he and her broke up if he still liked her.

Lol, I probably have it all wrong. I suck at this stuff.
 

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If it's only been 6 days, then I would wait a while - just long enough to know they don't have any feelings toward eachother and to make sure you're not the rebound. Then ask your friend and if he's cool with it, the go for it.
Good luck!
 

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aw sorry bout that.
saget.jpg

there ya go.

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thanks, it has filled my shallow soul with purpose

anyways, 6 days is pretty short. if this girl likes you as much as i am implying, then she would wait respectively for you. any clue on if she might still like your friend at all? although you did say those 2 hate each other now. if your friend is a good friend, and he doesnt care for the girl, than he probably wouldnt care what you do. talking to him is best though, especially since the break up is still recent.
 

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I was told by many members here months ago that going out with someone a good friend of yours had gone out with was a bad idea. But, if you like her, go for it. Not going for the relationship has made things awkward between the girl and I. But honestly, I feel you shuld go for her if you like her.
 
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