Help/Support ► Which approach seems better?

[Destiny's End]

I couldn't think of a right title for the thread, so I stuck with that. This seems to happen a lot usually. When you like a girl, you want to get to know her before you ask her out. When you finally know about her, hang out with her a lot, and are ready to ask her out, some other dude that girls don't even know scoops her up within an hour to a day, tops.

I don't know what to do. I might start taking that appraoch. Something, "Would like to get some lunch sometime to get to know each other a litte better?" Something along those lines.

Which approach do you think should be taken here?

 

[Trag]

I'm in the same predicament as you. This girl sits across from me at a lab table, and we do our labs together in bio. I talk to her a lot and shit, and we say hi in between the classes in the hall, but I want to wait to get to know her, but all my friends keep telling me to ask her out. I'd say go for it man.

 

[E.J.]

Become friends. Usually you get really close and come to like eachother.

 

[Constellations]

become friends first. that way, it'll be less uncomfortable if you go out with that person because you got to know them first.

 

[Iridium]

What everybody else said, become friends then take her out.
Simple...

 

[Byronic Cynicism]

When you like a girl, you want to get to know her before you ask her out.

You should do this if you have not already and if you have continue to do so, as it seems to be the best course of action.

Also, you may simply have to accept it and move on if she becomes interested in someone else.

 

[WilliamTheWise]

Step One: Hang out with her. It dosen't have to be a date, but being around her helps break the ice.
Step Two: When your around her be sure of yourself. Woman really don't go for the guy who can't think for themselves. That's why they date the funny guy and jocks because they give the impression they are always in control and most of the time they are.
Step Three: Don't rush into things. Become better friends. Girls aren't stupid they can smell love for miles and if you come on too strongly you may push her away.
Step Four: The best reason to ask a girl on a date is by suprise. What I mean is, say to her "Hey may dad gave me two Tickets to *Both your Favorite ( Sports,music or a local event like a fair)* want to come with me? If she says no don't worry the game not over. And don't get upset if she says she dosen't like you like that. There are more fish in the sea.
There are millions of ways to get a date. The only thing I can you is Each Girl and Guy is different so there are differnt ways into both their hearts.

This worked for me because both of us were interested in each other.
Sadly our love can never be because she's in College and I'll be there in 2 years. Plus she lives about 40 miles away and with gas prices this high forget it. We keep it touch thought the phone and Facebook. So you never know whats going to happen with love.

 

[Constellations]

Where are all the Girls on this Site at? They could get you into the mind of a girl better.

...hello I'm a girl and I gave advice lol

 

[WilliamTheWise]

...hello I'm a girl and I gave advice lol

I knew you were there I was trying to help him out by attracting More Females. Sorry If I gave the impression I forgot about you. The only way you get a know about dating Girls is by listen to other females. I grew up with a ton of girl cousins.
By the way What did you think about my advise?

 

[Constellations]

oh okay lol

I thought your advice was pretty well said lol

getting to know the girl is very important. if you don't get to know her first, and you ask her out, she might feel a little uncomfortable, especially if you barely talked to her before.

 

[Danica Syer]

Where are all the Girls on this Site at? They could get you into the mind of a girl better.

Hey mister! Right here!!!! Don't worry I read your other post going while scrolling down but that way to let you know though it's obvious!

Well for my advice, considering that I'm a girl and all and blah blah, I guess I would say the best step is to try and be friends first and yes, you can do it at lunch and just go up and say, "Hi," and or give a friendly smile and or do both! Girls like that especially if you like them and they and only if they like you back, considering I'm in a situation where I wish a boy--and I don't know you and all and such but I give a congratulations to you for trying to approach a girl--I'm sure she'll appreciate it and all--if she's not into coming up to guys unless they're her friends or somebody she knows really well or if she's massively shy (like me). Anyway, yeah, just be friends with her and just be nice to her and all and once you guys managed to click more then ever and all--then try and take the time--but don't rush--to ask her out! Trust me that when you two break up and all, it wouldn't be that bad!

 

[WilliamTheWise]

It was meant to get attention. Which it has. Should I change it? Sorry if it offended you My bad.

 

[Pelafina]

Become friends. Usually you get really close and come to like eachother.

lol no.

 

[risingfalls]

lol no.

Seconded.

Once you become really close friends, it gives the girl a great reason to not go out with you because the relationship will be too "awkward."
Should the relationship not work out, the friendship that you've managed to create might be ruined (at least that's what she might think), and you get nowhere.

Get to know her, but convey that you want to be more than just friends.

 

[Shadowysights]

I couldn't think of a right title for the thread, so I stuck with that. This seems to happen a lot usually. When you like a girl, you want to get to know her before you ask her out. When you finally know about her, hang out with her a lot, and are ready to ask her out, some other dude that girls don't even know scoops her up within an hour to a day, tops.

I don't know what to do. I might start taking that appraoch. Something, "Would like to get some lunch sometime to get to know each other a litte better?" Something along those lines.

Which approach do you think should be taken here?

1. Be Friends
2. Try to figure out if she has a mate or not.
3. Try to see good things in her before you ask her out.

Seriously, no point wasting your time asking her out and things are seriously out of order. While randomly picking someone up is great and all things usaully don't work out. Being friends should always come first.

 

[Ban Mido]

It's good to get to know some one first, but if you wait to long, somebody else usually gets to the girl first. Try this: Arrange to meet her three times, each time you spend discussing eachother's life and what not, and on the third meeting, if she likes you, ask her out. If she's interested, she'll say yes.

 

[Salty the Hero]

What everyone else said: Be friends, and then go for it.

 

[Destiny's End]

Seriously, no point wasting your time asking her out and things are seriously out of order. While randomly picking someone up is great and all things usaully don't work out. Being friends should always come first.

I hear what you're saying. My friends act the veyy opposite. It's just some of them have that "it" factor that it can work out automatically even if they just met the girl out of the blue one day. I always try to become friends first but in the end stuff doesn't work ya know.

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It's good to get to know some one first, but if you wait to long, somebody else usually gets to the girl first. Try this: Arrange to meet her three times, each time you spend discussing eachother's life and what not, and on the third meeting, if she likes you, ask her out. If she's interested, she'll say yes

I don't want to wait too long, but I don't want t rush things either. I'm tying to take it slow, but not too slow. If I take it slow, I come off as I'm not interested, if I rush, she'll get the impression of I just want to get with her to get with her.

 

[Pelafina]

Spoiler for those too dense to pick up on it the first time around- girls either want to be your friend, or your girlfriend. You can not get it both ways.

 

[scubasteve]

pick up lines that never fail:

-hey yo i got this long tube and i need to store it somewhere can i use your garage

-hey yo i got a this long penis and i need to store it somewhere can i use your vagina

-i watch a shitload of anime

-wanna cum over (think about that one)

-they call me football fanatic because i love it when you rub my balls with your foot

-let me get in on some of that

-if i could rearrange the alphabet i'd put u and q together because they rhyme

-fucking shit your hot as balls

-sup bro i was just wondering your cup size because i need an A for my test

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-let me see your biceps

-flex them muscles

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