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[SilentTrinity]

Okay there's this girl...
HA! you thought i was going to start writing a crappy romance novel huh?
nah I'm just messing with the reader.
but in all seriousness, there's this girl i like, who I've known for about 3-4 years now.
all of a sudden I've developed a crush on her in the last few months.
problem is were friends. And worse yet im friends with her friends! sigh cruel cruel irony.
whenever i talk to her she seems to laugh at my jokes(even though my jokes suck)
she also smiles at me whenever i look at her during lunch at school.
She also likes the same things as me(movies, books tv shows...etc)
oh and another thing i can't tell if my friend's mess around with her or if one of my friends likes her!
gah god dam my friend who shall remain nameless.
If she rejects me it would end our friendship. even though if she did do that i would be fine with being friends.
but im a coward.
I don't have the courage to tell her my feelings.
so what should i do?
man up and tell her?
or just be friends?
dam this is going to be weird in the future.
Girl I like: So how did you come up with asking me out?
Me: well i went on to this site.
GIL: "slaps me"
Me: what was that for?! All i said was i went on this site for help
gets slapped again...
oh yeah thats going to be a funny ass story to tell...

 

[king_mickey rule]

Okay there's this girl...
HA! you thought i was going to start writing a crappy romance novel huh?
nah I'm just messing with the reader.
but in all seriousness, there's this girl i like, who I've known for about 3-4 years now.
all of a sudden I've developed a crush on her in the last few months.
problem is were friends. If she rejects me it would end our friendship. even though if she did do that i would be fine with being friends.
but im a coward.
I don't have the courage to tell her my feelings.
so what should i do?
man up and tell her?
or just be friends?
dam this is going to be weird in the future.
Girl I like: So how did you come up with asking me out?
Me: well i went on to this site.
GIL: "slaps me"
Me: what was that for?! All i said was i went on this site for help
gets slapped again...
oh yeah thats going to be a funny ass story to tell...

Hmm ... you know, I'm kinda in the same situation ... I got the advice to give subtle hints, maybe this is the way to make sure wether she likes you or not?
Example (bad example though)
You: Could you imagine, the two of us a couple?
The girl you like:
1) Laughs (=> I don't like you)
2) ... yeah OR it could work out you know(=> I like you)
This is a bad example but it's to explain what I mean, based on how she reacts to a question, you can figure out wether she likes you or not .... maybe I should do this too xD

 

[Finland]

man up and tell her?

Yes.
If she's a good friend, she won't break your friendship, but understand how you feel.
If she wants to never speak to you again... well, then she was not a good friend.

I guess it will be awkward at first, but from experience I know that it'll pass. :3 You can still be friends despite your feelings for her.

 

[SilentTrinity]

lol but im a coward(like cowardly lion coward)
i can't get the courage cause i got none.
its really hard for me to even go next door and ask my neighbor for a cup of sugar.(ive known them all my life...)

 

[Finland]

What the heck.
You're really shy.

Just gather all the guts you have. You can do it.
And if it's really, really hard to tell it face to face, then use a text message or MSN. Lame, I know, but at least she'd know.

 

[SilentTrinity]

lol did that to another girl from last year(who in a ironic twist of fate was also a friend)
found out she went out with me as a pity thing...
oh i forgot to mention
im not shy its just when asking a girl out its hard
mental issues and all that
its not that im shy its..
well its just that...
dam my parents genes...

 

[king_mickey rule]

lol did that to another girl from last year(who in a ironic twist of fate was also a friend)
found out she went out with me as a pity thing...
oh i forgot to mention
im not shy its just when asking a girl out its hard
mental issues and all that
its not that im shy its..
well its just that...
dam my parents genes...

I understand what you're saying, but don't think it's bacause of your parents genes. I had a time when I "blamed the genes" too, but that's not good. When you blame your parents, you're gonna think "Well, these are my genes, I can't do nothing about it, it's just the way I am" => Not good, because after a few days, you're actually gonna believe you can't do nothing about it and therefore lose confidence. You have to start from the beginning man, start talking to her and other girls, tease them (grow confidence). It will still be hard but not as hard as before n.n

 

[xgnarmanx]

lol did that to another girl from last year(who in a ironic twist of fate was also a friend)
found out she went out with me as a pity thing...
oh i forgot to mention
im not shy its just when asking a girl out its hard
mental issues and all that
its not that im shy its..
well its just that...
dam my parents genes...

When your neverous to go ask for sugar i would call that shy.

Heres what you need to do just man up and ask her its better to know then to not know at all.

 

[SilentTrinity]

the genes thing was a joke
its my type of comedy making fun of myself...wow tough crowd
anyway I've tried to ask a girl out in 7th grade
we were really good friends.
but when i asked if she would go out with me she said no...
then a few years latter(2 years to be exact) she goes out with this out of thin air kid that I've never met.
the dudes a complete dick to me.
so for the rest of my ninth year at school i didn't talk to her
she did the same.
this year i came to realized that it wasn't her fault and asked er why she didn't talk to me.
she said something something(can't remember exact words)
then i asked her why her bf was such a dick(not using that word) to me.
she said he was jealous of me getting close to her(emotionally) cause i really did like her.
this gave me a confidence boost. Its probably the reason i like this new girl now.
but then my brain starts to remember that one moment, one moment of doubt.
and since then I've begin to think what if
what if she says no?
what if she says yes?
what if what if...
......
okay just to get the neighbor thing straight
i don't handle confrontations well.(good or bad...)
i hate those it makes me feel uncomfortable when asking someone for something...

 

[king_mickey rule]

the genes thing was a joke
its my type of comedy making fun of myself...wow tough crowd
anyway I've tried to ask a girl out in 7th grade
we were really good friends.
but when i asked if she would go out with me she said no...
then a few years latter(2 years to be exact) she goes out with this out of thin air kid that I've never met.
the dudes a complete dick to me.
so for the rest of my ninth year at school i didn't talk to her
she did the same.
this year i came to realized that it wasn't her fault and asked er why she didn't talk to me.
she said something something(can't remember exact words)
then i asked her why her bf was such a dick(not using that word) to me.
she said he was jealous of me getting close to her(emotionally) cause i really did like her.
this gave me a confidence boost. Its probably the reason i like this new girl now.
but then my brain starts to remember that one moment, one moment of doubt.
and since then I've begin to think what if
what if she says no?
what if she says yes?
what if what if...
......
okay just to get the neighbor thing straight
i don't handle confrontations well.(good or bad...)
i hate those it makes me feel uncomfortable when asking someone for something...

Ok, I obviously didn't notice it was a joke xP
Anyways, the 'what if' question is inside my head all time also. Irritating huh?
But, in one way or another you're gonna end up telling her that you like her, wether you like it or not. You either forget her or you tell her, there's no road inbetween you can take. Because when you keep these feelings for yourself, they'll get even worse, eventually making you crazy (not really crazy but you get what I'm saying).

 

[SilentTrinity]

its going to eb interesting
so what should i do?
tell her next time i see her in person?
or do it over a txt message or on FB chat?
god those last two would suck...

 

[king_mickey rule]

its going to eb interesting
so what should i do?
tell her next time i see her in person?
or do it over a txt message or on FB chat?
god those last two would suck...

NEVER over a text message, I did this last time and I felt very, very awkward afterwards. Besides, when you talk to her in person about this she will appreciate it that you had the courage to tell her in person. Also, don't be too quick about these things, so when you see her, the first thing you say may obviously not be "I like you" ... I don't know how you should say it though or when but think everything trough before you act and NO text message n.n

Still, this is my opinion, it's your freedom to follow it or not though, it's still you're life so please be skeptical over our opinions. Sure, you can follow it, but you still have to do something yourself right n.n

 

[SilentTrinity]

k cause thats how my relationship with my first gf start
it ended 14 hours later at lunch
i felt like shit for about 3 months...
then we began to talk again.lol

 

[Chris]

So, you're making fun of the concept of getting help for this on a website, but you're doing it anyway?

 

[Noir]

k cause thats how my relationship with my first gf start
it ended 14 hours later at lunch
i felt like shit for about 3 months...
then we began to talk again.lol

lolololololololololololol.
So funny. Hysterical. Side-splitting.
If you're this funny, you should go for it. Not just for you, but for the people around.

 

[MangaCrazy101]

First of all yes NEVER say it over text message or FB.
Girls like someone who can tell it to them straight.
Yes subtle hints are good and in this situation i Just seems you need to tell her.
I have before mentioned a letter write it to her and if you can't write your name write from some one close to you.
This is soooo kute aww shane-kun has a crush.

 

[Finland]

First of all yes NEVER say it over text message or FB.
Girls like someone who can tell it to them straight.
Yes subtle hints are good and in this situation i Just seems you need to tell her.
I have before mentioned a letter write it to her and if you can't write your name write from some one close to you.
This is soooo kute aww shane-kun has a crush.

But isn't a letter almost the same thing as a text message? I mean, you still wouldn't tell it straight... :/

 

[Azrael]

Okay there's this girl...
HA! you thought i was going to start writing a crappy romance novel huh?
nah I'm just messing with the reader.
but in all seriousness, there's this girl i like, who I've known for about 3-4 years now.
all of a sudden I've developed a crush on her in the last few months.
problem is were friends. And worse yet im friends with her friends! sigh cruel cruel irony.
whenever i talk to her she seems to laugh at my jokes(even though my jokes suck)
she also smiles at me whenever i look at her during lunch at school.
She also likes the same things as me(movies, books tv shows...etc)
oh and another thing i can't tell if my friend's mess around with her or if one of my friends likes her!
gah god dam my friend who shall remain nameless.
If she rejects me it would end our friendship. even though if she did do that i would be fine with being friends.
but im a coward.
I don't have the courage to tell her my feelings.
so what should i do?
man up and tell her?
or just be friends?
dam this is going to be weird in the future.
Girl I like: So how did you come up with asking me out?
Me: well i went on to this site.
GIL: "slaps me"
Me: what was that for?! All i said was i went on this site for help
gets slapped again...
oh yeah thats going to be a funny ass story to tell...

Man up and go for it. If she rejects you, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[MangaCrazy101]

But isn't a letter almost the same thing as a text message? I mean, you still wouldn't tell it straight... :/

Hmm i guess thats true... yes sorry stupid i dea -__-

 

[D∆NTE]

Man I've seen threads like this every where, maybe I should make my own. Tip, grow some balls. Just go up to her and tell her, It's not the end f the world. Like King Mikey said, dont do it over a txt. And for God sakes, dont do it while her other friends are around. Maybe it will work out, If it dosnn't and she rejects you. Just tell her that you understand. That will reduce the awkwardness a bit.