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[afrobutt]

Regardless...

About... I'll say 7 months ago I became intrested in this girl. Mostly because she's one of the few girls I actually find attractive in my school.

Bunch of shit happened (went on a few dates, physical contact never went past hand-holding, few convo's on AIM). Then we didn't speak for about 2 months during the summer (apparently her grandma died)

So school starts again, and she hasn't even attempted to speak with me (nor have I with her). Nearly bit the insides of my cheek raw after seeing some freshman hitting on her. I said "Happy Birthday" to her in the hall once, and that's it for contact.

I have no idea how I feel about her.

So now we're both in the Senior Play, and I've been playing with the notation of talking to her. The problem is, I really don't/do want to.

On one hand, I'll feel like shit if she gets involved with some other guy and I did nothing.

On the other, I really don't want to know what she thinks of me.

tl;dr should I grow some balls and talk to her, or just let things be?

 

[Superschlock]

I dinnae really know. Arrr! Arrr! Th' same object hapened ter me, an' one o' me mateys started going out escorting th' lass an' I got o'er it. An' pointless she got all a mite sore on the eyes :\

 

[Iridium]

Talk to her dude, no point in standing by and doing nothing.
I've done that several times and I regret doing so, don't end up like me man =\

 

[Nyangoro]

Well, in a way, you answered your own question. You'll never know unless you talk to her, and I doubt you're ok with standing by, waiting for her to date someone else. I mean, the possibility of rejection is always there (I gaurentee that most evey guy and girl worry about this, as you've probably been told before); but at least if she rejects you, then you'll know where you stand. That's gotta be better than wondering "what could have been."

 

[Pelafina]

tl;dr should I grow some balls and talk to her

You type out this whole paragraph, only to answer your own question?

 

[Danica Syer]

Anyway, talk to her. But seriously do whatever you want. Have to. Need to. But I'd recommend talking to her.

Talking helps I guess.

I don't know what else to say. Ummm.....try to at least say something.

Don't ignore the person. Find out what's going on and so forth. I mean you told us but I think you know what I mean.

Good luck, sorry if that didn't help.

 

[afrobutt]

Hum... left out some things

Like I said, we tried the whole relationship thing out. Didn't work for 3 reasons.

1) Neither of us can drive, so all dates would be driven to by parents (hell no)

2) I don't socialize in school. This isn't one of those "gah everyone hates meh, gotta sit in mai emo cornah (lol maine)" or "I am a loner gah" deals, I just really don't like talking during school. The most I'll talk is during classes, of which we have none together.

tl;dr there is no way we could have a relationship atm

Now, obvious comes up with "Well why don't you wait until you can drive, then ask her out"?

1) By then, she'll likely be in a relationship with someone who isn't a social recluse ( stealing words from hades), in which I'm fucked

2) By then, one of us might have forgotten about the other. You could argue that if that was the case, then the relationship wasn't worth it anyway. But I'd see it more as "When you don't speak to a person for months, feelings die off."

So, obvious returning, one might say "Then you could ask her if she'd wait."

Which I'm not doing. It's lame

So as far as I can tell, any sort of relationship would be impossible. The only reason I even want to talk to her is so that I can find out what she thinks of me (lol ego). I don't expect a relationship to form because of it, I just want closure.

And that leaves me with my two choices.

1) Sit back and do nothing

2) Talk to her, see nothing happen, then sit back and get on with the rest of my life.

 

[Pelafina]

2) Talk to her, see nothing happen, then sit back and get on with the rest of my life.

At least you get some closure this way.

 

[Ophan]

you dabble with love and you get hit pretty hard.
the relationship hasn't been declared "over", so talk to her
see what's up, and if things go bad....then yeah move on

like said before, it is so much better to end a relationship
rather than to think what could have been, cause if that was the case
then you probably would be sitting in that little emo corner

 

[Cicero]

You answered your own question again. Talk to her, get it over with, and go on with your life.

But one thing; if you don't even want a relationship then why the hell bother? What is the point of asking someone's oppinion of you when you don't intend to speak to her ever again. Get a new girl and ask her that question.

On the point of the cars: Why not go somewhere after schooltime? Even if your schedules don't match up there is always time to do something after school's out.

 

[Ophan]

if you have to drive somewhere to actually have a date.....then that sucks

my first date
i walked to her house
"and we're talkin miles here"
we walked to the park
we had laughs here and there
we stopped and got a couple of burgers
then we went to the movies.
everything was on foot

why is dating not this simple???

excluding living in a flat distant area like New Mexico....then i understand

 

[afrobutt]

At least you get some closure this way.

Yeah, but I also risk making an ass out of myself if she's over me, for nothing

But one thing; if you don't even want a relationship then why the hell bother? What is the point of asking someone's oppinion of you when you don't intend to speak to her ever again.

I want a relationship, I just can't see any way of one working out.

Get a new girl and ask her that question.

Did I not mention she's the only girl in my school worth talking to?

On the point of the cars: Why not go somewhere after schooltime? Even if your schedules don't match up there is always time to do something after school's out.

What my town looks like

 

[Cicero]

I want a relationship, I just can't see any way of one working out.

Hm, yes that's another story..

Did I not mention she's the only girl in my school worth talking to?

School isn't the only place to meet girls, mate.

What my town looks like

I see your problem. =P

Well, all by all there is one thing left to say then, like everyone else already said...talking with her is the only way to work it out...so; good luck!

 

[Nostalgia]

Do it casually. Talk to her when at a point when she's not even on your mind. If you try something in the condition you're in right now, you'll be too nervous to care. Wait until you're in a more relaxed state.

 

[Ventus]

Well, i guess it's better taking a chance and trying to work out the whole thing rather than sitting wondering 'what if...?' >_>
so yeah, do what you think it's the best for both of you.

 

[Noir]

What my town looks like

It wouldn't be that bad if you brought a sword and a shield with you. o.o.

Honestly, get the bus, or the train. I life MILES away from civilization.... only neds (Chavs >_>) reside here. Lol. So I'll get the train down whenever I wanna go out.

 

[afrobutt]

So I thought about it... and I guess I'll wait until November to make my decision.

Reason 1) Maybe I'll feel differently by then, or at least the answer will be more clear

2) By then, she may come talk to me. We'll be in practice almost every day until the performance starts. We can't ignore each other for THAT long.

Making decisions that prolong other decisions is awesome

 

[Anima Relic]

You want an answer that you already answered yourself. Though if you still need some incentive or something that'll help you out

check this out

YouTube - Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann - Be a Man

 

[Iridium]

Out of all the disney movies to incorporate songs (which is basically all of them) that was the most inspirational for me.
It speaks the truth.

 

[Vandread]

Personally, if you guys seemed to have some sort of a relationship before that never really officially ended, I think you should talk to her again. Sure, you may somehow make an ass out of yourself, but I'd much rather do that than end up regretting not doing anything. Even if you don't know how to make a relationship work out, you can still at least try.