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[Ta-Chan]

So, My dad does nothing with me. When I try to talk to him he brushes me off, and today when I asked him to come to see the fireworks for Canada Day with me he said no and watched them from the backyard. He does this all the time and I'm finally tired of it.

My mom has tried talking to him about it and still no results.

KHI... What should I do?

 

[Orion]

Maybe he just doesn't care, or has lost the energy to be a caring parent?

It's quite possible that there's just nothing that can be done to change him.

 

[Ta-Chan]

True... Standing ovation for saying something different than everyone else I've talked to is saying

 

[Orion]

Eh, maybe Sam'll have something better to say.

 

[Gildragon]

I'm not sure that KHI is the best place to ask people how to be a parent. seeing ase like 98% of us don't have our own kids.


Write your dad a letter stating how serious this is to you. this way he can't interrupt you mid conversation. give it to him and go somewhere so that he'll have time to reflect on it while you aren't around. This worked with a relative of mine and her father.

 

[Enchanted Rose]

Wow, that seems harsh.
At least you're taking the initiative to try and talk to him, and do things with him.

Honestly if he still isn't responding, he must be apathetic, or just tired or maybe he has something else on his mind. This could be a phase..?
I'd say your mother probably has more power to influence him, and she might be able to determine why he isn't interested.

What about doing things as a 3? He might feel more comfortable doing that, than just you and him.

 

[Gildragon]

Wow, that seems harsh.
At least you're taking the initiative to try and talk to him, and do things with him.

Honestly if he still isn't responding, he must be apathetic, or just tired or maybe he has something else on his mind. This could be a phase..?
I'd say your mother probably has more power to influence him, and she might be able to determine why he isn't interested.

What about doing things as a 3? He might feel more comfortable doing that, than just you and him.

considering the mother has talked to him. and that he still hasn't done anything. I don't think this will work.

 

[Azrael]

So, My dad does nothing with me. When I try to talk to him he brushes me off, and today when I asked him to come to see the fireworks for Canada Day with me he said no and watched them from the backyard. He does this all the time and I'm finally tired of it.

My mom has tried talking to him about it and still no results.

KHI... What should I do?

He's tired of you probably and changing him will never occur.

 

[Archetype00x]

Perhaps he's simply one of those people who can't really express their emotions. You shouldn't take it personally.

 

[Ta-Chan]

I'm not sure that KHI is the best place to ask people how to be a parent. seeing ase like 98% of us don't have our own kids.


Write your dad a letter stating how serious this is to you. this way he can't interrupt you mid conversation. give it to him and go somewhere so that he'll have time to reflect on it while you aren't around. This worked with a relative of mine and her father.

Hmm... I might try that...

Wow, that seems harsh.
At least you're taking the initiative to try and talk to him, and do things with him.

Honestly if he still isn't responding, he must be apathetic, or just tired or maybe he has something else on his mind. This could be a phase..?
I'd say your mother probably has more power to influence him, and she might be able to determine why he isn't interested.

What about doing things as a 3? He might feel more comfortable doing that, than just you and him.

Thats why I tried asking him to come see the fireworks, I went with mom without him when he said no