Do you have a screwdriver handy? If so, use it to pull out the shift key please.
And as for what you were saying, Shuri, I think people put too much emphasis on labels these days. Many times it's not as clean cut as straight, gay, and bi. There are different levels of attraction, and different types of attraction. I know one friend of mine who is gay but does like to kiss girls, even though he'd never go any farther with it. Another friend is straight but he likes kissing guys, but he doesn't consider himself gay or bi.
Sexuality is a lot more complex than people try to make it out to be.
Actually, I think sexuality is pretty simple:
If you have sexual attractions to members of the same sex, you are homosexual.
If you have sexual attractions to members of both sexes, you are bisexual.
If you have sexual attractions to members of the opposite sex, you are heterosexual.
It's just not that hard to figure. Both your friends are probably bisexual, unless the thrill they get from kissing isn't sexual, in which case they're just messing around. But I think, generally, people try to over-complicate sexuality in order to compensate for the fact that they don't want to admit to themselves who they really are. It all ties into some weird new-age bullshit concept that everyone is special and unique, and that sexuality is not one thing or another but some wide spectrum of feelings and emotions and states of being. Sexuality has nothing to do with those things.
As I was saying before in reference to
Angels in America, it's much easier to be a man who sleeps with men than to be a homosexual man in this country, if you know what I mean. This ties into a much bigger issue that I think hasn't really been addressed properly, which is that, at least from my experience, most people actually don't care as much if you're gay as they do if you're gay
and comfortable with it. As long as you're a little bit ashamed, you can still be degraded and overpowered, and that's better. Obviously it's still wrong that you're gay, but as long as you aren't outspoken and you keep to yourself, you aren't contributing anything to the gay community as a whole and, thus, you are actually crippling equal rights more effectively than any anti-gay organization could. I think that's why I get a bit upset when people try to dodge around sexuality. Sure, we can all believe that sexual attraction is this indefinably wide scope of things, but what purpose does that really serve? Does that help any real world issues? No. It just gives some gay kid who's too indoctrinated to accept his sexuality the ability to pat himself on the back, because his sexuality is whatever he decides it is and just because he likes sticking his dick in guys doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. Like I said, it's a cop out; a fantasy. That kid is gay, and he shouldn't be ashamed to admit it to himself. I think the whole "Sexuality is everything" theory is degrading to gay people who have worked hard to have no shame in who they are, because suddenly, they don't have to be gay at all! They can be "sort of" gay, or "a little" bi. Just like you can be "sort of" black, or "a little" Chinese! Hell, you can be straight and just have a tendency to put penises in your mouth. It's just one more excuse
not to be gay, which implicitly reinforces the notion that there is something wrong or shameful about being gay in the first place.
Also,
Then leave. No one wants to hear about how wonderful your relationship with your lover is. When you have some issues pertaining to your status as a homosexual, let us know.
Not to downplay what you're saying, but I actually do like hearing about relationships. I know they aren't necessarily appropriate for discussion here, but it's a bit harsh to imply that nobody cares about what he has to say, not to mention extremely presumptuous. I think what I'm trying to say is, speak for yourself.
Also, if getting together with this guy was a huge step for Freeshooter in accepting himself for who he is, I would say it's perfectly understandable that he would want to share it with the "LGBT Support" thread. I know it sounds crazy, but sometimes people just like to share their accomplishments with others.
So congratulations to you, Freeshooter. :3
Shuri/Eli