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I'm sure many parents had quarreled before, not just my parents. Some may have it worse than me. But sometimes I can't take it. I'm not that strong like some people. Every time my parents have a fight I lock myself in my room and I try to pretend that I can't hear them. Well of course it doesn't work because their voices (especially my mom) is so freaking loud and sometimes I'm embarrassed to think that the neighbours might hear them too.
My dad doesn't quarrel with my mom. My mom does. She always starts it. Sometimes I understand that she gets annoyed at certain things my dad does but I don't find it a good reason as to why she should start quarreling over it. And my dad's already old and retired. He sends me to school, picks me up from school, does small errands and chores in the house (and this was after my mom started quarreling over how he's so lazy and doesn't do anything at all in the house). She even accuses him of chasing after another woman who I've never heard of before and has never come to our house once. I mean, my dad stays at home the whole day unless he has to do something (which is picking me up from school and shopping for household items and taking care of the house, cats, fish whatever).
Once my dad completely lost it and he yelled at my mom. Usually when they quarrel my dad just keeps quiet and lets my mom vent out all her anger on him until she starts crying and it just stops there and he leaves her alone. But that one time when he lost his temper I thought it was the end of my family. My dad even suggested to my mom that if she doesn't like him then they might as well have a divorce. But she started yelling at him some more about how he always gives up on things and never cares about anything but himself.
That's not true at all. My dad's done a lot for us (you know, he worked for food on the table and for us to have fun and all those stuff) and sometimes I feel like my mom doesn't appreciate it. When I was younger I thought my dad was the bad person but now that I'm older and I listen carefully to them I feel like my mom's the wrong one.
I love my mom and my dad. When they're not quarreling and talking about weird things they make me laugh so much. But they're quarreling more than often now (even right now, they're not talking to each other). Once I was locked in my room and my dad came in after their quarrel and he hugged me and kept saying 'Sorry. I love you.' And I cried so much not because I was hurt by their quarrel but because my dad was troubled by it.
I'm not trying to blame it all on my mom, (and lately I've been thinking maybe she's reaching menopause or something D and I'm closer to my mom than my dad. I'm scared to talk to my mom about this because she might start scolding me and accuse me of hating her. Once my brother and my mom had an argument and my dad tried to calm my mom down but she started quarreling with my dad saying that he hates her and my brother hates her too. (Drama queen much?)
I've never spoken up whenever they have fights and I'm scared to even talk about it to my mom. But knowing my mom, talking about it to her doesn't even help because she doesn't even want to listen. She'll make up some excuse and push it away. And I don't know what I should do. I'm scared that they'll really divorce, even though maybe it's better that way.
Is it better for me to just stay silent as I am? (Sorry, this is really long, haha.)
My dad doesn't quarrel with my mom. My mom does. She always starts it. Sometimes I understand that she gets annoyed at certain things my dad does but I don't find it a good reason as to why she should start quarreling over it. And my dad's already old and retired. He sends me to school, picks me up from school, does small errands and chores in the house (and this was after my mom started quarreling over how he's so lazy and doesn't do anything at all in the house). She even accuses him of chasing after another woman who I've never heard of before and has never come to our house once. I mean, my dad stays at home the whole day unless he has to do something (which is picking me up from school and shopping for household items and taking care of the house, cats, fish whatever).
Once my dad completely lost it and he yelled at my mom. Usually when they quarrel my dad just keeps quiet and lets my mom vent out all her anger on him until she starts crying and it just stops there and he leaves her alone. But that one time when he lost his temper I thought it was the end of my family. My dad even suggested to my mom that if she doesn't like him then they might as well have a divorce. But she started yelling at him some more about how he always gives up on things and never cares about anything but himself.
That's not true at all. My dad's done a lot for us (you know, he worked for food on the table and for us to have fun and all those stuff) and sometimes I feel like my mom doesn't appreciate it. When I was younger I thought my dad was the bad person but now that I'm older and I listen carefully to them I feel like my mom's the wrong one.
I love my mom and my dad. When they're not quarreling and talking about weird things they make me laugh so much. But they're quarreling more than often now (even right now, they're not talking to each other). Once I was locked in my room and my dad came in after their quarrel and he hugged me and kept saying 'Sorry. I love you.' And I cried so much not because I was hurt by their quarrel but because my dad was troubled by it.
I'm not trying to blame it all on my mom, (and lately I've been thinking maybe she's reaching menopause or something D and I'm closer to my mom than my dad. I'm scared to talk to my mom about this because she might start scolding me and accuse me of hating her. Once my brother and my mom had an argument and my dad tried to calm my mom down but she started quarreling with my dad saying that he hates her and my brother hates her too. (Drama queen much?)
I've never spoken up whenever they have fights and I'm scared to even talk about it to my mom. But knowing my mom, talking about it to her doesn't even help because she doesn't even want to listen. She'll make up some excuse and push it away. And I don't know what I should do. I'm scared that they'll really divorce, even though maybe it's better that way.
Is it better for me to just stay silent as I am? (Sorry, this is really long, haha.)